Love first

There have been so many things running through my head recently and I wasn’t sure what to write about this week. One particular subject sticks out in my mind and heart, but I have been hesitant to write about it because it is not a very widely appreciated or accepted view. I will tell you ahead of time that chances are you won’t agree with everything I am about to write. This also will not be the only post on such a subject, but I will try to be as clear and concise about what I am thinking, in this post, as possible.

The other day my husband and I sat down to watch the classic movie, “Philadelphia”. I don’t want to ruin the movie for you, but the basic storyline is a courtroom drama regarding homosexuality discrimination in the workplace. This movie brought up a lot of heart issues in me and got me thinking. I’ve been thinking about these issues for years now, but it made me want to put down my thoughts more clearly and concisely.

There are so many issues to address when it comes to homosexuality… is I right? Wrong? Chosen? Given? Innate?  Sinful?  Beautiful? … I’m not going to begin to address all of these issues, but really just focus on one.

This post is directed towards Christians. Not because these issues aren’t important to all, but because I feel that those are the only people I can directly address regarding these issues.

First off, I’m going to start this discussion by saying that I believe homosexuality is a sin. I think scripture is completely clear on this point, and I’ve yet to hear a convincing scriptural argument otherwise. The Holy Spirit has convinced me of this as well. Now, before you send a lynch mob after me, or perhaps start singing the halleluiah chorus… please read the rest.

For some reason we (Christians) tend to put sins on some sort of hierarchical list. Sins that for lack of a better term “gross us out” are at the top, and the sins we struggle with are at the bottom. Homosexuality, pornography and a mix of other sins are “awful” while a little white lie is “something I am working on”.

Now, scripture does speak to sexual sins specifically. It says that sexual sin is a sin against one’s own body and because our bodies are temples and meant to honor God this is very wrong. However, it does not say that quantitatively this sin is different to God. Sin is sin and all sin separates us from God. When you accept Christ all sin is wiped away and nothing separates us from God. Sexual sin is no different in this regard. Qualitatively I think it can cause more harm to the individual and speaks to identity issues more than many other sins, but it does not separate us from God any more or less.

When I watched “Philadelphia” I cried. I cried not because of the “sin” but because of the discrimination and hate. Christians are not called to hate but to love. Jesus got mad at sin, but I hate to break it to you… he got mad at the sin in the religious men primarily. He only ever addressed the sin in the non-religious after he demonstrated love, healing and hope. First he didn’t condemn he embraced a relationship, second he discussed sin.

It hurts my heart when I see Christians joke about sexual sins, make fun of homosexuals, or generally just treat any difficulties with the homosexual lifestyle as untouchable. Jesus touched the adulterers, the prostitutes, the tax collectors… he didn’t avoid them because he was afraid of their lifestyle. I don’t currently, or ever plan to, avoid those living a homosexual lifestyle, but instead choose to embrace them in love. If they choose to change their lifestyle I can guarantee the love of the father will help accomplish this more than any judgement on my part ever could.

Do I believe someone can struggle with homosexuality and be a Christian. Yep.  Just like someone can struggle with pornography, lying, gluttony, anger etc and still be a Christian. The fact that I am more “comfortable” with some sins in a Christian life is not the line that determines a relationship with Christ. Do I think there is something better out there than the homosexuality life? Absolutely; but, I will always stress a love relationship with God as the issue of prime importance.

There are many more things to say on this issue, and maybe I will at another time. I tried to write this post with grace and honesty. I am interested to see if others see the issue the same way as I do.


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